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Imagine the next time you join a discussion about puppy training. When you start sharing the fascinating puppy training facts below, your friends will be absolutely amazed.

Dealing with problem puppy behaviors:

Everyone who owns a puppy or dog will eventually have to deal with and correct less than desirable behaviors on the part of their companion animal. There are a number of behaviors that should be nipped in the bud, including:

Jumping up on people. This is one of those behaviors that many owners inadvertently encourage in their animals, since jumping up, wagging his tail and the like can be adorable in a young puppy. When that puppy is older, larger and heavier, however, this jumping up behavior ceases to be cute and begins to become annoying and even dangerous.

A large, heavy dog jumping up on people can be dangerous to young children and even to some adults, since a large, 100 pound plus dog can easily knock down a child or small adult. Since you as the owner are responsible for the behavior of your dog, it is important to nip this problem behavior in the bud.

The best time to do that, of course, is when the puppy is still small and easy to handle. When the puppy jumps up on you or someone else, gently place the puppy’s feet back on the floor. When the dog remains standing there, be sure to praise it extensively.

Those of you not familiar with the latest on dog training now have at least a basic understanding. But there’s more to come.

It is also important to give the puppy an alternative to jumping up. Puppies jump up on people to express their enthusiasm, so it is important to redirect this energy in a more socially acceptable direction. Try teaching the puppy to present his paw instead of jumping up.

When teaching the puppy to not jump up on people, it is important to be consistent. Consistency is important in any training program, and all members of the family must understand that the puppy is not permitted to jump on them.

Pulling, charging and tugging on the lead. One problem you definitely want to nip in the bud is this one. It is important that the puppy learn to respect the collar and leash now, when he is still small and light enough to handle. Teaching this lesson to a 10 pound puppy will be much easier than teaching the same lesson to a 150 pound dog.

Using a good strong body harness or head collar can be a big help when training a puppy not to pull, or to retrain a dog that has already learned to pull on the leash. When first fitting a harness, it is important to allow the puppy to walk around wearing it, so that he can get used to wearing it. The first thing your puppy must learn, and the basis of all subsequent training, is teaching your dog to heel. Teaching your dog to walk quietly at your side on a loose lead is the basis of all dog training, and until your puppy has mastered this vital skill he will be unable to move onto more advanced training.

When walking with a puppy on a leash, it is important to always keep slack in the leash. If the puppy begins to pull on the leash, the handler should quickly change directions. The puppy will then find itself lagging behind instead of forging ahead. The least will be loose except for the split second it takes to change directions. It is important for the handler to use a quick tug of the leash, followed by an immediate loosening, when teaching this lesson.
When teaching the puppy to walk properly, it is important to never allow the puppy to pull you around, or to forge ahead on the leash. Allowing the puppy to pull you around will teach him exactly the wrong lesson.

If you’ve picked some pointers about dog training that you can put into action, then by all means, do so. You won’t really be able to gain any benefits from your new knowledge if you don’t use it.

J. Brian Keith
http://www.articlesbase.com/pets-articles/bad-puppy-how-to-deal-with-your-puppies-bad-behavior-62859.html

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I just want to see what everyone thinks in regards to discipline.
For parents do you spank your child? How do you cope when your child acts out in public? What methods work for you?

This is for serious answers only please. Thank you.

Well i’m not a parent but I don’t believe in spanking children. What are they going to learn? Nothing because the pain is going to be so bad that they are going to forget what happened. I have a god daughter and whenever she acts out in public I ignore her. I listen to her, explain to her why she doesn’t need whatever she wants, tell her own plans for the day (so she’ll know that what she wants has nothing to do with our day) and keep on walking. She cries which I hate but kids want everything.
I believe if you talk to them, ask them questions, wait for their answer and explain to them why or the consequences they will get it then they won’t get so out of control.

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i was at dinner last night with a friend and my daughter (14 months) started to act up. It wasn’t embarrassing for me but I felt bad for my friend. She said she didn’t mind but I still apologized about it.

Do u apologize (to any one) for ur child’s bad behavior in public?

Yes, if you have a small child it’s understandable for them to misbehave but it is polite to apologize for having put those around you in that situation. People will be understanding and appreciative. However, when it comes to places like movie theaters I expect parents to leave babies at home and if you bring an older child but they do start crying, to take them out of the theater immediately. Anything less is very rude.

When they get older you should teach them to apologize or at least tell them they are being rude. Kids whose parents let them get away with bad behavior don’t see it as wrong and become bratty.

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My boyfriend is in strong belief that it is more benificial to punish when bad happens rather than praise for the good. I cant seem to find the words to explain how great it is for the child to get praised for Good behavior. I dont want my son to grow up with this complex that everything he does is not good enough or is bad. Does anyone know of any great websites that list the development of a 5 yr old or just explaining how great praise is.
Thanks for the advice.

This is an excerpt from a BabyCenter/ParentCenter article on dicipline (The discipline tool kit: Successful strategies for every age)

Here’s the link for all of it:
http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/toddler/toddlerbehavior/1475318.html

"Tool: Try reverse rewards
Age: 3 to 8 years
How it works: Take a page from teachers everywhere — kids respond much better to positive reinforcement than to reproach and punishment. And they also like structure and clear expectations. Ruth Peters, the clinical psychologist in Clearwater, Florida, advises parents to take advantage of these qualities by setting up a system of rewards. You can make this system even more effective by reversing the usual rules — instead of giving rewards for good behavior, take them away for bad behavior.

Real-life application: Put a few things your child loves — these could be a Hershey’s kiss, a new colored pencil, and a card good for an extra bedtime story — in a jar or box as the day’s rewards. Then draw three smiley faces on a piece of paper and tape it to the jar. If your child breaks a rule or otherwise misbehaves, you cross out a smiley face and one treat disappears from the jar. An hour or so before bedtime, you give your child everything that remains.

The tools: Grade-schoolers
Tool: Teach consequences
Age: 5 to 8 years
How it works: We want our children to make the right choices — finish their homework before they turn on the TV, for example, or not play ball in the house. But when they don’t, what do we do?

To handle problem behaviors, involve your child in finding a solution, says Harvard professor Dan Kindlon. For example, if he doesn’t finish the night’s homework, he may decide to wake up earlier the next morning to do it. Because this isn’t a great long-term solution, make a plan for the future together: Does he want to do his homework before going out to play, or does he want to set aside time in the evening?

If he’s been part of the planning process, it’ll be a lot harder for your child to pretend he just "forgot." But be consistent in enforcing limits — if the plan is to finish homework after dinner, it must be finished before the TV goes on.

Real-life application: Your 7-year-old breaks a lamp throwing a ball in the house. Instead of scolding him by saying that he wasn’t supposed to be doing this in the first place, tell him it’s up to him to fix his mistake. Have him glue the lamp back together if he can — if not, he can do extra chores to earn enough for a new lamp."

Good Luck!

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I got so many great reponses to my earlier question about a friend’s child who is bullying my 4 yr old daughter in preschool. Almost everyone suggested that I talk to the friend (bully’s mom) about it. How do I do that? What do I say? I’ve never been in this type of situation before, and I’m trying to think of what my reaction would be if the shoe were on the other foot, but I’m having a hard time being objective. Advice?

Most parents will never want to admit to you, let alone themselves, that there is anything wrong with their child that they or you should be concerned about.

Most parents think their children are "perfect angels", and while they are out shopping , and not staying home with their children and raising them properly, they think their children can do no harm. It’s quite the contrary, isn’t it?

I am single, never been married, no kids. Every day that I am out and about someone’s child annoys me.
I have been known to go right up to that parent and say something. Because I can. Because I am a shopper, not an employee or manager of a store and afraid to offend a parent. And because they have it coming to them!

I think the best way is the direct way.
Perhaps in your case, you could present it in such a way that you are making a suggestion on how to remedy the situation, rather than criticize the parent. Your situation may be different if you have a lot of contact with these parents.

Just don’t allow your children to play with their children. You don’t want their bad behavior to rub off on your child as acceptable. Maybe they’ll get the message in that way.

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