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I just want to see what everyone thinks in regards to discipline.
For parents do you spank your child? How do you cope when your child acts out in public? What methods work for you?

This is for serious answers only please. Thank you.

Well i’m not a parent but I don’t believe in spanking children. What are they going to learn? Nothing because the pain is going to be so bad that they are going to forget what happened. I have a god daughter and whenever she acts out in public I ignore her. I listen to her, explain to her why she doesn’t need whatever she wants, tell her own plans for the day (so she’ll know that what she wants has nothing to do with our day) and keep on walking. She cries which I hate but kids want everything.
I believe if you talk to them, ask them questions, wait for their answer and explain to them why or the consequences they will get it then they won’t get so out of control.

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Honesty and dishonesty are qualities that a child learns at home. Often parents are perturbed when their child lies.

It is common for young children to tell tall tales and make up stories. This is a normal tendency as kids enjoy telling and hearing stories that are fun. Children often tend to confuse the difference between fantasy and reality. This is perhaps more as a result of an extremely active imagination than of an attempt to hide the truth. As children get older, they may tell lies to suite their needs, like shirking responsibility and avoiding work. Parents should treat each instance of lying as an isolated one and respond by teaching the child about the necessity of trust and honesty.

Sometimes adolescents feel that it is alright to lie in certain situations like not telling ones girlfriend or boyfriend the real reason for a breakup as they are afraid of hurting someone else’s feelings. Adolescents might also lie to retain a sense of privacy and feel psychologically independent of their parents. The main role models in a child’s life are his or her parents. When parents catch their child lying, they should approach the matter gently but firmly, emphasizing the difference between a lie and the truth and the necessity for honesty. They should try to communicate to their child and find out the reason for dishonesty and help the child find an alternative. It is best to lead by example and a parent should never lie, and if they do, emphasize the inappropriateness of it. Consequences of lying must be discussed clearly and in a comprehensive manner with the child early in his or her life.

There are, however, some forms of dishonesty that should cause concern and might be a symptom of some underlying emotional problem. Sometimes children know the difference between a lie and the truth but choose to make up elaborate stories to gain attention.

Other adolescents or children, who seem to be sensible, can also fall prey to repetitive lying. It is common for them to feel that a lie is the most convenient method of dealing with the expectations of teachers, parents and friends. Here the child is not trying to be malicious or bad but just falls into a habit of repetitive lying. If the repetitive lying goes beyond a point, it is best to take it seriously and consult a professional child or adolescent psychologist who can provide help in time.

Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/parenting-articles/teaching-your-child-honesty-how-to-deal-with-a-lying-child-740356.html

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Honesty and dishonesty are qualities that a child learns at home. Often parents are perturbed when their child lies.

It is common for young children to tell tall tales and make up stories. This is a normal tendency as kids enjoy telling and hearing stories that are fun. Children often tend to confuse the difference between fantasy and reality. This is perhaps more as a result of an extremely active imagination than of an attempt to hide the truth. As children get older, they may tell lies to suite their needs, like shirking responsibility and avoiding work. Parents should treat each instance of lying as an isolated one and respond by teaching the child about the necessity of trust and honesty.

Sometimes adolescents feel that it is alright to lie in certain situations like not telling ones girlfriend or boyfriend the real reason for a breakup as they are afraid of hurting someone else’s feelings. Adolescents might also lie to retain a sense of privacy and feel psychologically independent of their parents. The main role models in a child’s life are his or her parents. When parents catch their child lying, they should approach the matter gently but firmly, emphasizing the difference between a lie and the truth and the necessity for honesty. They should try to communicate to their child and find out the reason for dishonesty and help the child find an alternative. It is best to lead by example and a parent should never lie, and if they do, emphasize the inappropriateness of it. Consequences of lying must be discussed clearly and in a comprehensive manner with the child early in his or her life.

There are, however, some forms of dishonesty that should cause concern and might be a symptom of some underlying emotional problem. Sometimes children know the difference between a lie and the truth but choose to make up elaborate stories to gain attention.

Other adolescents or children, who seem to be sensible, can also fall prey to repetitive lying. It is common for them to feel that a lie is the most convenient method of dealing with the expectations of teachers, parents and friends. Here the child is not trying to be malicious or bad but just falls into a habit of repetitive lying. If the repetitive lying goes beyond a point, it is best to take it seriously and consult a professional child or adolescent psychologist who can provide help in time.

Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/parenting-articles/teaching-your-child-honesty-how-to-deal-with-a-lying-child-740356.html

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While it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to explain the law of gravity; it does take a simple explanation to share with your child the consequences for their actions. My daughter has tried over and over, time after time to test the waters with bad behavioral actions. The best I can do is explain to her the consequences for her actions. While sometimes it seems as if what I tell her goes through one ear and out the other, I believe I’ve finally gotten through by letting her know that I’ve lived long enough and there’s really nothing she could do or think that would surprise me whether it’s good or bad. I’ve let her know there are consequences for bad behavior and a price to pay for her actions, and there are rewards to be gained across the board for her good behavior. I simply let her know she’s only hurting herself by her own actions with the things done that’s not acceptable, not only to me, but to mainly herself. Using corporal punishment is not always the solution to kids’ bad behavior. Each and every child is different to how they respond to the decisions you make when they choose to be defiant occasionally.

If you want to help your child overcome their bad behavior; have a face to face sit down conversation with them explaining the consequences for their actions. Hopefully sooner better than later they will begin to take heed to your words of wisdom and knowledge and begin to practice what you have preached and taught them. By talking to your child you will let them know they should pay close attention to what you are sharing with them so that there lives won’t be as complicated with good counsel verses not getting any kind of counsel at all. While it’s true we as parents do not have all the answers to life problems; we do or should have enough life experience to help our children. If you are a very young parent then seek the help of an elder of someone who’s much older than you or someone with good parenting skills to help you along the way as you grow into becoming a mature parent yourself. Keeping yourself in the right state of mind and practicing what you preach will be a perfect example of portraying good behavioral patterns and actions. Your children will mimic and model your actions whether they are good or whether they are bad. Which action do you want your child to mimic good or bad? If you’re honest with yourself you know you want your child to mimic your good behavioral actions.

Your child or children are an asset to you and not a liability. Look, Children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of your womb is a reward. Psalm 127:3. If you are struggling with your parental rights and responsibilities sign-up to receive tips on life in general and I can help you with your parenting concerns.

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Clark A. Thomas
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I work with a child who kicks and hits and is very violent do you have any advice of how to explain and get points across of why not to be violent? He is 9.

Does he have recognized behavioural disorder, such as ADHD/ADD, ODD etc, and is there a IEP in place?

Dealing with violent behaviour regardless of behavioural disorder being present or not, can be difficult, but if everyone who deals with the student is clear in the do’s and don’ts of how to manage them, can help heaps.

Children can have number of reasons for being disruptive such as, problems at home, problems at school or in the classroom, physical, cognitive/developmental or mental health problems etc.

Students needs to have clear boundaries, of rules and of what is expected of them, and what the consequences for bad behaviours are going to be.
This could be a classroom discussion and or activity, so everyone in the classroom is aware of rules etc, and what the consequences are. Where they set the rules (with guidance), such as no yelling, no hitting, kicking etc.

Let students know what is happening for the day, when and where, this can help prevent behavioural out bursts, especially if they have a recognized disorder.

Routine, children like a set routine, it can make them feel safe, hence giving information about what is going to happen is vital.

Have set times for each activity, 15-20 minutes is ideal, as kids will start to fidget.

Praise good behaviour, how ever small it maybe, even if he has been naughty through out the day, make him feel good before he leaves at the end of the day, e.g "Timmy I was very pleased, you completed your reading today", hopefully he will go home happy, and come back happy, and willing to repeat the good behaviours.

Try not to focus on bad behaviour, rather direct and divert the students attention to do something else. However if he is being physical, talk to him calmly and remove him from the classroom, and isolate him in a quite area away from other students.

This allows for him to calm down, then listen to what he has to say, acknowledge his thoughts and feelings.

Make sure he knows that you don’t like it when he kicks, hits etc, as it makes you and other people sad.

Be fair and CONSISTENT, in managing him and other students, and when you say that you’re going to do something, follow through with it. Kids hate it when we say we are going to do something and then we don’t follow through with it.

Watch for signs of building stress such as hair twirling, picking at his clothes, excessive fidgeting, grunting etc, as these can be a precursor to an out burst.

If he has a recognized disorder, then ask his parents/carers what his likes and dislikes are, does he have any behaviours that indicate he is becoming stressed, such those list above. Knowing these can mean the difference managing his out bursts.

Edit;
I have over 15 years experience in working with students with disabilities and I am a qualified Disability & Youth support worker and a teacher.
The reason you remove a student who is acting out is TO PROTECT OTHER STUDENTS.

Yes the child may want to get out of the classroom, but the WELFARE of other students and staff come first, especially when a child is being violent.

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