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My boyfriend is in strong belief that it is more benificial to punish when bad happens rather than praise for the good. I cant seem to find the words to explain how great it is for the child to get praised for Good behavior. I dont want my son to grow up with this complex that everything he does is not good enough or is bad. Does anyone know of any great websites that list the development of a 5 yr old or just explaining how great praise is.
Thanks for the advice.

This is an excerpt from a BabyCenter/ParentCenter article on dicipline (The discipline tool kit: Successful strategies for every age)

Here’s the link for all of it:
http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/toddler/toddlerbehavior/1475318.html

"Tool: Try reverse rewards
Age: 3 to 8 years
How it works: Take a page from teachers everywhere — kids respond much better to positive reinforcement than to reproach and punishment. And they also like structure and clear expectations. Ruth Peters, the clinical psychologist in Clearwater, Florida, advises parents to take advantage of these qualities by setting up a system of rewards. You can make this system even more effective by reversing the usual rules — instead of giving rewards for good behavior, take them away for bad behavior.

Real-life application: Put a few things your child loves — these could be a Hershey’s kiss, a new colored pencil, and a card good for an extra bedtime story — in a jar or box as the day’s rewards. Then draw three smiley faces on a piece of paper and tape it to the jar. If your child breaks a rule or otherwise misbehaves, you cross out a smiley face and one treat disappears from the jar. An hour or so before bedtime, you give your child everything that remains.

The tools: Grade-schoolers
Tool: Teach consequences
Age: 5 to 8 years
How it works: We want our children to make the right choices — finish their homework before they turn on the TV, for example, or not play ball in the house. But when they don’t, what do we do?

To handle problem behaviors, involve your child in finding a solution, says Harvard professor Dan Kindlon. For example, if he doesn’t finish the night’s homework, he may decide to wake up earlier the next morning to do it. Because this isn’t a great long-term solution, make a plan for the future together: Does he want to do his homework before going out to play, or does he want to set aside time in the evening?

If he’s been part of the planning process, it’ll be a lot harder for your child to pretend he just "forgot." But be consistent in enforcing limits — if the plan is to finish homework after dinner, it must be finished before the TV goes on.

Real-life application: Your 7-year-old breaks a lamp throwing a ball in the house. Instead of scolding him by saying that he wasn’t supposed to be doing this in the first place, tell him it’s up to him to fix his mistake. Have him glue the lamp back together if he can — if not, he can do extra chores to earn enough for a new lamp."

Good Luck!

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It is never easy to discipline one’s child. You probably know the importance of consistency, firmness and follow through from your own mistakes and experiences. However, it becomes a little more complicated when there are two parents involved. Therefore it is very important for you both to agree with each other and be consistent in your application of disciplinary actions irrespective of your marital status.

Parents need to reach an agreement regarding the disciplining of their child. If one wants their child to rely on them, it is important that both the partners deal with the same situations consistently. In case the parents are divorced or separated, disagreement with one another regarding the upbringing of their child can hugely confuse the child. Regardless of how your marriage stands, it is important to keep in mind your child’s best interests and make concerted efforts to explain to the child the various expectations and rules and the repercussions of violating them. Both should be in agreement regarding the fairness of the intended discipline and both should apply it in a fair and consistent manner each time.

Also, in case there are differences in opinions regarding parenting issues and discipline, it is best to resolve them in the absence of the child. A child can easily manipulate a situation to his own advantage if he senses any discord.

It is of utmost importance to practice what one preaches when it comes to teaching your child good behavior. A child is more likely to learn from your example rather than verbal instruction. It is ineffective and hypocritical to hit or scream at the child. You should decide the importance of a situation and the kind of approach you need to adopt in order to discipline your child. The best thing to do is remain calm while requesting your child to remain quiet and take some time out if your child is getting physically aggressive.

Never forget that things that work in the present might not necessarily work in the future. Each situation demands a different approach and there may be a requirement to modify or abolish a particular rule according to the time and child’s maturity. You need to use your common sense in order to determine the situations in which table manners can be relaxed and bed time rules modified. While some rules might remain the same, others might require modification or abolishment to pave the way for new rules. Irrespective of the situation, it is important for the parents to be unified in front of the child and it is of great value if the parents do not work against each other while establishing discipline for their child.

Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/parenting-articles/bringing-up-your-child-collaborating-with-your-partner-740353.html

Technorati Tags: Absence, Concerted Efforts, Consistency, Consistent Manner, Disagreement, Disciplinary Actions, Discord, Experiences, Fairness, Firmness, Good Behavior, Marital Status, Marriage, Parenting Issues, Repercussions, S Child, Time Out, Upbringing, Utmost Importance, Verbal Instruction

It is never easy to discipline one’s child. You probably know the importance of consistency, firmness and follow through from your own mistakes and experiences. However, it becomes a little more complicated when there are two parents involved. Therefore it is very important for you both to agree with each other and be consistent in your application of disciplinary actions irrespective of your marital status.

Parents need to reach an agreement regarding the disciplining of their child. If one wants their child to rely on them, it is important that both the partners deal with the same situations consistently. In case the parents are divorced or separated, disagreement with one another regarding the upbringing of their child can hugely confuse the child. Regardless of how your marriage stands, it is important to keep in mind your child’s best interests and make concerted efforts to explain to the child the various expectations and rules and the repercussions of violating them. Both should be in agreement regarding the fairness of the intended discipline and both should apply it in a fair and consistent manner each time.

Also, in case there are differences in opinions regarding parenting issues and discipline, it is best to resolve them in the absence of the child. A child can easily manipulate a situation to his own advantage if he senses any discord.

It is of utmost importance to practice what one preaches when it comes to teaching your child good behavior. A child is more likely to learn from your example rather than verbal instruction. It is ineffective and hypocritical to hit or scream at the child. You should decide the importance of a situation and the kind of approach you need to adopt in order to discipline your child. The best thing to do is remain calm while requesting your child to remain quiet and take some time out if your child is getting physically aggressive.

Never forget that things that work in the present might not necessarily work in the future. Each situation demands a different approach and there may be a requirement to modify or abolish a particular rule according to the time and child’s maturity. You need to use your common sense in order to determine the situations in which table manners can be relaxed and bed time rules modified. While some rules might remain the same, others might require modification or abolishment to pave the way for new rules. Irrespective of the situation, it is important for the parents to be unified in front of the child and it is of great value if the parents do not work against each other while establishing discipline for their child.

Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/parenting-articles/bringing-up-your-child-collaborating-with-your-partner-740353.html

Technorati Tags: Absence, Concerted Efforts, Consistency, Consistent Manner, Disagreement, Disciplinary Actions, Discord, Experiences, Fairness, Firmness, Good Behavior, Marital Status, Marriage, Parenting Issues, Repercussions, S Child, Time Out, Upbringing, Utmost Importance, Verbal Instruction

It is never easy to discipline one’s child. You probably know the importance of consistency, firmness and follow through from your own mistakes and experiences. However, it becomes a little more complicated when there are two parents involved. Therefore it is very important for you both to agree with each other and be consistent in your application of disciplinary actions irrespective of your marital status.

Parents need to reach an agreement regarding the disciplining of their child. If one wants their child to rely on them, it is important that both the partners deal with the same situations consistently. In case the parents are divorced or separated, disagreement with one another regarding the upbringing of their child can hugely confuse the child. Regardless of how your marriage stands, it is important to keep in mind your child’s best interests and make concerted efforts to explain to the child the various expectations and rules and the repercussions of violating them. Both should be in agreement regarding the fairness of the intended discipline and both should apply it in a fair and consistent manner each time.

Also, in case there are differences in opinions regarding parenting issues and discipline, it is best to resolve them in the absence of the child. A child can easily manipulate a situation to his own advantage if he senses any discord.

It is of utmost importance to practice what one preaches when it comes to teaching your child good behavior. A child is more likely to learn from your example rather than verbal instruction. It is ineffective and hypocritical to hit or scream at the child. You should decide the importance of a situation and the kind of approach you need to adopt in order to discipline your child. The best thing to do is remain calm while requesting your child to remain quiet and take some time out if your child is getting physically aggressive.

Never forget that things that work in the present might not necessarily work in the future. Each situation demands a different approach and there may be a requirement to modify or abolish a particular rule according to the time and child’s maturity. You need to use your common sense in order to determine the situations in which table manners can be relaxed and bed time rules modified. While some rules might remain the same, others might require modification or abolishment to pave the way for new rules. Irrespective of the situation, it is important for the parents to be unified in front of the child and it is of great value if the parents do not work against each other while establishing discipline for their child.

Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/parenting-articles/bringing-up-your-child-collaborating-with-your-partner-740353.html

Technorati Tags: Absence, Concerted Efforts, Consistency, Consistent Manner, Disagreement, Disciplinary Actions, Discord, Experiences, Fairness, Firmness, Good Behavior, Marital Status, Marriage, Parenting Issues, Repercussions, S Child, Time Out, Upbringing, Utmost Importance, Verbal Instruction

It is never easy to discipline one’s child. You probably know the importance of consistency, firmness and follow through from your own mistakes and experiences. However, it becomes a little more complicated when there are two parents involved. Therefore it is very important for you both to agree with each other and be consistent in your application of disciplinary actions irrespective of your marital status.

Parents need to reach an agreement regarding the disciplining of their child. If one wants their child to rely on them, it is important that both the partners deal with the same situations consistently. In case the parents are divorced or separated, disagreement with one another regarding the upbringing of their child can hugely confuse the child. Regardless of how your marriage stands, it is important to keep in mind your child’s best interests and make concerted efforts to explain to the child the various expectations and rules and the repercussions of violating them. Both should be in agreement regarding the fairness of the intended discipline and both should apply it in a fair and consistent manner each time.

Also, in case there are differences in opinions regarding parenting issues and discipline, it is best to resolve them in the absence of the child. A child can easily manipulate a situation to his own advantage if he senses any discord.

It is of utmost importance to practice what one preaches when it comes to teaching your child good behavior. A child is more likely to learn from your example rather than verbal instruction. It is ineffective and hypocritical to hit or scream at the child. You should decide the importance of a situation and the kind of approach you need to adopt in order to discipline your child. The best thing to do is remain calm while requesting your child to remain quiet and take some time out if your child is getting physically aggressive.

Never forget that things that work in the present might not necessarily work in the future. Each situation demands a different approach and there may be a requirement to modify or abolish a particular rule according to the time and child’s maturity. You need to use your common sense in order to determine the situations in which table manners can be relaxed and bed time rules modified. While some rules might remain the same, others might require modification or abolishment to pave the way for new rules. Irrespective of the situation, it is important for the parents to be unified in front of the child and it is of great value if the parents do not work against each other while establishing discipline for their child.

Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/parenting-articles/bringing-up-your-child-collaborating-with-your-partner-740353.html

Technorati Tags: Absence, Concerted Efforts, Consistency, Consistent Manner, Disagreement, Disciplinary Actions, Discord, Experiences, Fairness, Firmness, Good Behavior, Marital Status, Marriage, Parenting Issues, Repercussions, S Child, Time Out, Upbringing, Utmost Importance, Verbal Instruction