Posts Tagged ‘Self Esteem’
Connecting With Your Child – How Not To Overdo It
March 13th, 2010 | 
Author: Getting involved with what your child does, but not overdoing it, enhances your child’s total development. Studies show that children whose parents are involved in their work generally excel in what they do in school, in their hobbies, and other extracurricular activities. These children tend to have more self-confidence or higher levels of self-esteem.
Be wary, however, of overdoing parent involvement in your child’s school activities. Your child may fall intro a trap of being too dependent on you. Children need privacy, freedom and space so that they can develop their own talents, skills and abilities. Doing things for what your child needs to do will not hasten his learning process. Instead, you will slow that process down. It does not matter if they are making mistakes or not doing enough when doing their work, what is important is he gets to learn by experience. He will be deprived of this opportunity if you keep on doing things for him.
Allowing your child to learn by himself is not easy for parents. We are too eager to help our child succeed, and come to their aid when they fail. Remember, your primary task is to guide and encourage your child in his school and other activities. By all means, reward him with praises for his successes, big or small. But learn when to step in and when to let your child be. Develop his creative nature by encouraging him various ways of doing things or approaching problems. Doing things differently does not necessarily make it wrong or inferior to what we consider to be standard practice. In fact it can create opportunities for learning not only for the child but for you, too.
Also keep some distance when it comes to your child’s social life. Be around when you feel your child needs you. But when he says he needs time to figure out his problems himself, grant him that need. Just assure him of your guiding presence whenever your child invokes his need for your help. At his age of restlessness and discovery, he needs to go through learning processes by himself, with some help from his parents.
Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/parenting-articles/connecting-with-your-child-how-not-to-overdo-it-740330.html
Connecting With Your Child – How Not To Overdo It
Getting involved with what your child does, but not overdoing it, enhances your child’s total development. Studies show that children whose parents are involved in their work generally excel in what they do in school, in their hobbies, and other extracurricular activities. These children tend to have more self-confidence or higher levels of self-esteem.
Be wary, however, of overdoing parent involvement in your child’s school activities. Your child may fall intro a trap of being too dependent on you. Children need privacy, freedom and space so that they can develop their own talents, skills and abilities. Doing things for what your child needs to do will not hasten his learning process. Instead, you will slow that process down. It does not matter if they are making mistakes or not doing enough when doing their work, what is important is he gets to learn by experience. He will be deprived of this opportunity if you keep on doing things for him.
Allowing your child to learn by himself is not easy for parents. We are too eager to help our child succeed, and come to their aid when they fail. Remember, your primary task is to guide and encourage your child in his school and other activities. By all means, reward him with praises for his successes, big or small. But learn when to step in and when to let your child be. Develop his creative nature by encouraging him various ways of doing things or approaching problems. Doing things differently does not necessarily make it wrong or inferior to what we consider to be standard practice. In fact it can create opportunities for learning not only for the child but for you, too.
Also keep some distance when it comes to your child’s social life. Be around when you feel your child needs you. But when he says he needs time to figure out his problems himself, grant him that need. Just assure him of your guiding presence whenever your child invokes his need for your help. At his age of restlessness and discovery, he needs to go through learning processes by himself, with some help from his parents.
Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/parenting-articles/connecting-with-your-child-how-not-to-overdo-it-740330.html
what are the benifits of early childhood education to the child, family, society?
what are the goods it offer and how it help?
Children: prepares them for school, gives the children structure during the day, teaches the children social skills.
Family: mostly ECE programs have one day a week that they do a "home visit" in which the teacher sees how the child interacts in the home. The teacher can give the parents advice on how to help their child educationally and behaviorally.
Society: Helps children (especially those with disabilities or lower socio-economic backgrounds) learn to appreciate learning and stay in school and graduate. Studies have shown that children who were in ECE programs graduated from high school, have higher self esteem than their peers and succeed in life – that is, they do better than their parents did.
Parenting- Your Child is Watching You
Children start imitating when they are really young. This is how they learn how to communicate with others, care for themselves, behave themselves and develop new skills. Right from their infancy they start watching your behavior closely and their own behavior reflects what you believe and act like. They see your example as a permanent image and this shapes their actions an attitude for the remainder of their lives. When it comes to your child, you need to be consistent, loving and reasonable. The same applies for your behavior with your spouse, parents and all other family members as well as friends that your child considers part of his or her life. when you make mistakes, own up to them and be honest and open in your communication with your family members.
It is vital that you care for yourself as well. While thinking of our children’s best interest, it is very important to care for yourself. Your family and children depend on you, both emotionally and physically, therefore it is important that you make yourself dependable by taking good care of yourself. this will help you care for all those you love. This also helps the child see that apart from loving them and the family, you also love yourself. This step is imperative for teaching your child the value of self esteem. This could mean you should hire a baby sitter when you treat yourself to a movie and dinner or go someplace you want to visit on your own. This helps the child see you, not only as a parent, but also as an individual with your own likes and dislikes, needs and interests. This also gives them an opportunity to be on their own without you for a while.
Equally important is nurturing the relationship you have with your spouse or partner. Your child should see you and your spouse communicating in a healthy and positive manner with each other, show one another affection and love and respect each others opinions. This will instill in the child an idea of what a healthy marriage should be like. So be very careful about how you behave when your around your child because he or she is going to be just like you one day.
Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/parenting-articles/parenting-your-child-is-watching-you-740341.html
Posted in child behavior | 
Tags: Act, Affection, Attitude, Baby Sitter, Best Interest, Communication, Family Love, Family Members, Friends, How To Communicate With Others, Infancy, Likes And Dislikes, Love And Respect, Marriage, Parenting Children, Parents, Relationship, Remainder, Self Esteem, Shapes | 
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What is your opinion about comparing your child to other children?
I have heard many parents who tell their kids that other children are performing better than they are and that they should live up to the expectations other children are setting. For example, a parent may continuously tell their eight year old that her friend excels in an area she herself may not do very well in as a ways to push them to try harder.
Please tell me your opinion about this – is it a means to convince your child to do better, or does it prove to be more of a means of breaking the child’s own self esteem?
what parent, at one point or another, has never compared their child with another? all parents do that. even subconsciously. thinking it and not saying it is the only decent way to do this.
it’s very wrong for a parent to pull Junior to one side and tell him that another child is performing better than him. i’m sure some parents think this is a motivational tool, but it’s not. it does nothing for the self esteem of the child.
telling your child that he’s better than someone else is likewise wrong. this tact puts your child on a pedestal he may not be able to come down from well into adulthood. he will have a false sense of superiority and will be hated by most.
the best way to motivate a child to perform at his best is to tell him that he CAN –with no reference to any other child. an 8-year old is already pressured into personally comparing himself with his peers in the classroom and in the playground. the last thing he needs is to be told this by his very own parent.
what a parent can do is support the child and nurture his gifts by his own pace. children have different paces of learning and development anyway. comparing one and the other would be like comparing apples and oranges.
Posted in child |
Tags: Adulthood, Apples And Oranges, False Sense, Motivational Tool, Own Pace, Paces, Parents, Pedestal, Peers, Playground, Reference, Self Esteem, Superiority, Tact |
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